Congratulations to the newly engaged couple! This is such a special and exciting time in your lives, and we are thrilled to share in your joy.
The journey to marriage is a beautiful one, filled with love, laughter, and lots of happy memories. As you begin to plan for your big day, take some time to savor the moment and enjoy being engaged. Here are a few things you may want to keep in mind after getting engaged.
1. Enjoy the Moment
It is natural for newly engaged couples to feel excited and overwhelmed about planning their wedding. However, it is important to take a step back and enjoy the moment of being engaged before diving into the planning process. This time is a special and fleeting moment in your relationship, and it is essential to celebrate and savor it before getting caught up in the details of the wedding. Additionally, taking some time to simply enjoy being engaged can help reduce stress and ensure that you can approach wedding planning with a clear and joyous mindset.
2. Keep it vague when people start asking about wedding details
As a newly engaged couple, you may find that people start asking you about your wedding plans almost immediately after your engagement. While it is natural to want to share the details of your big day with others, it can also be overwhelming to feel like you have to have all the answers right away.
One way to manage the constant stream of questions is to keep your plans a bit vague for the time being. You can say something like "We're still in the early stages of planning, but we're so excited for our special day!" This will give you time to figure out your own plans and preferences before committing to any specific details.
Remember that your wedding day is about celebrating your love and commitment to each other, not pleasing everyone else. It's okay to take your time and make decisions that feel right for the two of you.
3. Talk to Your Fiancé
This is the time to sit down and answer one big question: What do WE want?
Working together as a team can help to create a wedding that reflects both partners' desires and personalities. It can also help to reduce stress and prevent misunderstandings during the planning process. Additionally, involving your fiancé in the planning process can help to strengthen your communication and collaboration skills, which can be beneficial for your relationship in the long term.
4. Set a Budget
Having a budget can also help you make informed decisions about your wedding. It can be easy to get caught up in the excitement of planning and want to include every possible detail, but a budget can help you focus on what is most important to you and make sure you can afford those things.
Furthermore, having a budget can help prevent financial stress during the planning process. Weddings can be expensive, and it is important to clearly understand your financial limitations so that you can make sustainable and realistic choices.
5. Set a few possible dates
Many factors can influence your wedding date, such as the availability of venues and vendors, the schedules of your wedding party and guests, and seasonal considerations. Being open to the possibility of changing your wedding date can make it easier to secure the resources you need for your big day and ensure that you are able to have the wedding you envision. It is important to remember that the most important thing is celebrating your love and commitment to each other, and the specific date of your wedding is just one aspect of that.
6. Choose Your Bridal Party
It is important to give your friends and family time to process the news and offer their congratulations before asking them to commit to being a part of your wedding party. A lot can change between ‘yes’ and ‘I do’. People move away, friendships evolve, and new relationships form.
It is also a good idea to give yourself some time to think about who you would like to include in your bridal party. Take some time to consider which people are most important to you and who you would like to have by your side on your wedding day.
7. Draft your guest list
Will you invite only close friends and family for an intimate affair, or will you expand the guest list to include your third cousins, twice removed? This is an important decision as it will help you understand the overall size and scope of your wedding and make informed decisions about your budget and venues.
Having a clear idea of your guest list can also help you make sure you can invite the people most important to you and ensure that they can attend your wedding. It is important to carefully consider your guest list and ensure that it reflects the people most meaningful to you as a couple.
8. Gather Wedding Inspiration
Many resources are available for finding wedding inspiration, including wedding magazines, blogs, and social media accounts. You can also attend wedding shows and fairs to see what different vendors and venues offer.
Pinterest is a great resource for finding wedding inspiration. The platform is full of ideas and images that can help you visualize your dream wedding. You can create a board specifically for your wedding and start pinning ideas that you like, such as wedding dresses, bouquets, decor, and more. This can help you understand your wedding style and make planning and executing your big day easier.
Another way to find inspiration is to think about what is meaningful and unique to you as a couple. Consider your shared interests, values, and personalities, and look for ways to incorporate those elements into your wedding.
9. Remember that whatever you’re feeling is normal
Post-engagement anxiety can manifest in a number of ways, including feelings of stress, worry, and indecision. You may feel pressure to make decisions quickly or to meet the expectations of others. You may also feel overwhelmed by the sheer number of details and choices involved in wedding planning.
Remember that it is okay to feel anxious or overwhelmed at times and that it is normal to need support and guidance as you navigate this process. Consider reaching out to friends, family, or a therapist for support, and try to take breaks and prioritize self-care when you need it.
Ultimately, your wedding day is about celebrating your love and commitment to each other, and to try to approach the planning process with a sense of joy and excitement.
10. Start looking at wedding venues
One way to find a wedding venue is to start by listing the key features and amenities you are looking for. Consider the overall feel and atmosphere you want for your wedding, as well as any specific needs you may have, such as accommodations for a large number of guests or a particular type of cuisine.
Next, start searching for venues that fit your criteria. You can do this online by contacting venues directly or by working with a wedding planner. It is a good idea to visit a few different venues in person to get a sense of the space and see if it meets your needs.
Make sure to read reviews and ask for references before making a decision. It is also important to consider the terms of the contract and make sure that you understand what is included in the price and any additional fees or restrictions that may apply.
As you embark on this new chapter in your lives, remember to prioritize your love and commitment to each other above all else. Your wedding day will be a celebration of that love, which will surely be a beautiful and unforgettable occasion.
We wish you all the best as you begin this journey and can't wait to see what the future holds for you as a married couple. Congratulations again, and best wishes for a lifetime of love and happiness.